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Hi, my strong friends. Hey, I've been talking with a lot of people lately that have tried all sorts of experiments at doing things. Some have bought other people's processes and thought if they follow that process or that technique, exactly, they will get the result for whatever dream they're going after. And usually their dream is a far off dream. They believe if they do this one process like boom, here is their final result. And then when they don't get that result in a certain amount of time, they get really frustrated and they think, well, that person's process just doesn't work.

But really what you're doing when you're learning somebody else's process or their tech, it's also an experiment to see does this work for you?

My friends, I'm gonna keep this episode super short and straight to the point. We're gonna go over doing a lessons learned from experiments. And it's really a simple process. So I don't need to go into a huge amount of details. I'm just gonna talk to you about what it is and why it's important.

PURCHASING A RESULT OR DEVELOPING YOUR TECHNIQUE?

So I know, especially with entrepreneurs, we purchase a lot of different programs to try to learn different things. And each program will promise some type of a result. We think, yep, that's the result I want. We go, we do this part of the process. Maybe not even all of of it. And then we're like, well, that just didn't work. Because sometimes we think that just by buying the program, we instantly get the result. Like we can purchase the result.

But the reality is we're trying on these different techniques as an experiment to see, does this help us to get the results that we want?

So I invite you to consider doing a lessons learned on any of those programs that you purchase.

You'll evaluate the technique is something you even like. Does it sit well with you? So back in podcast episode number 45 I talked about how to design experiments for maximum progress. So you're trying to get a result and you want to have progress in getting there and ultimately to actually get your result.

The timeframe really is up to you. We don't know all of the factors that are going on in your life. We don't know if all of the techniques that you do really matches what the guru has taught you. I know you probably didn't design an experiment before you purchased somebody's program, but I want you to go back and think about it.

WHAT WAS THE SPECIFIC OUTCOME YOU WANTED?

What was the actual outcome you were looking for now? I know that you're probably gonna think I want this shiny end result. But really in a program, someone is trying to teach you a technique or a skill. The outcome of the program is the technique and the skill, because the thought is, if you have developed that really well, you are going to be able to get your result.

But when you're focused so much on the result, you might not even be spending a lot of time on the technique and the skill that you're learning. You're just like, where's that result?

So I want you to do a lessons learned on your experiment of all of these different programs that you've taken. Now, some of you out there share your whole laundry list of all of the different programs that you've tried with an umbrella statement of nothing works.

I want you to slow down and look at every single one of those and do a lessons learned on the experiment of each one of those programs.

LESSONS LEARNED PROCESS

The lessons learned is really simple. It's just,:

1. RESULT

What result did you get from trying out these different techniques that you learned in the program?

Did you develop a skill? Did you have more progress in some part of your overall objective?

What are all of your results? You got some kind of results. What were they?

Write those ones down and then think about the technique itself. So we'll do a couple different ways of the lessons learned on this.

2. WHAT WORKED

Think about the technique itself, what worked about it for you? Just because it worked for somebody else doesn't mean that it's gonna work with you because we're all wired to differently. We're already programmed differently.

Other people, even though they may have this great result, it aligned with their values, but does it align with your values? So think about all of the things about this technique that you learned, what worked for you, what did you really like about it?

3. WHAT DIDN'T WORK

And now I want you to think about what didn't work about it. Was there something that wasn't aligned with your values? It wasn't aligned with your lifestyle. It doesn't work with how your brain is wired. And that maybe you don't wanna rewire your brain that way, to work in the way that this other person works.

Does it require other capabilities that you didn't have yet?

I know that I've been in some five day challenges to do things. I was so excited and then day one, I hit a wall. Because all of a sudden there was something I was already supposed to know, or some tech that I was already supposed to have set up. I couldn't continue on with the challenge because I wasn't adequately prepared. So I had to step back out of it and go do something else first so that I could prepare for the rest of the program.

I even had one program I joined for collaboration opportunities. I wasn't able to even do an elevator speech. I couldn't introduce myself. And you absolutely had to be able to do that in order to go and collaborate. So what was it that didn't work about this program or technique?

So it could be that the technique itself just wasn't for you. You didn't like it. It left a bad taste in your mouth.

Or you weren't prepared.

Or you needed some extra skills or some extra tech.

Maybe you needed extra help along the way, or for them to present the material to you in a different way. Because we each have our own learning style too. Some of us are very visual. Some of us are audio learners. Some of us need more time to learn and process information.

I've seen some of the programs where it's like launch your business within 90 days. I'm sorry, I can't go that fast because I like to really think through a lot of it, build things in my own time. So that I don't stress myself out or challenge my mental health. Also, I have family considerations. I may not have the number of hours in the day available to do what they're asking to do in order to complete that result in the amount of time. It doesn't mean that their program wasn't good. It just meant that I needed something a little bit different.

4. WHAT WOULD I DO DIFFERENTLY NEXT TIME

Doing these lessons learned of What Worked and What Didn't is gonna help you not only learn the program, it helps you learn about you. What's good for you and what your needs really are. So the final part of a Lessons Learned is what would you do differently?

So now that you are looking at that one experiment, especially if it's to develop another capability or have tech, what would you do differently?

You might try to find out what capabilities do I need to have first? What tech do I need to have first before I purchase a program? Am I really ready for this program now?

I want you to do that for all of the different things that you've gone through in your journey. Because if you're like most of us, you've gone through a lot.

Even reading a book is part of it. One of the things I talked about with somebody recently is - do you sit down and consume a whole educational thing at one time, whether it's a book or online courses, or do you have a different approach?

My approach is to watch or read a small portion of it and then get out into the field and start experimenting with it right away. I want to see if I can apply it. If I read a whole book or I sit down and watch a whole course, by the time that I've finished, I've forgotten a lot of the things that I was going to try. So I'd rather start trying right now and see if it works for me. If it doesn't work, what would I do differently? What I found is that I get my results a lot faster doing it that way.

If I stop and consume a whole bunch, I'm gonna spend all of my time, just in a chair, reading or watching and not actually doing or building. So look at how you've approached all of these different programs. Have you been a consumer where you're listening and learning to all of the stuff, and then you get out there and you start doing. Does that work for you? Because it might. It might not.

LEARNING & DISCOVERING WHAT WORKS FOR YOU (AKA "THE GOLD")

There's lots of different ways that you can do it. I know that a lot of times when you do experiments, you just wanna go out there and do something. And then if you don't get the big shiny result, you think, oh, I didn't get anything out of it. You just wanna scrap the whole thing.

The problem is you haven't paused to do a lessons learned on it. The lessons learned is really where you're gonna find all of that gold that you need for what works for you and your personalized success.

Don't be afraid to go outside of the lines of some guru's process. I've seen so many people as we're mapping out their process telling me, oh, well, the guru said to do this. And then the guru said to do that. And then I was like, okay, but what results did you actually get? And they have a big ol' zero. There was no movement through their process. They're like, but the guru said to do this. It's like, well, maybe that part doesn't work for you and your ideal clients or for your business.

Maybe there needs to be a different approach because that guru might have had success in one area, one segment of the population, but that doesn't work with your people or work with you.

So don't get hung up on every little detail that a guru tells you. There might be little nuggets of it that work perfectly for you. Keep those pieces. And then all the stuff that doesn't work, don't be afraid to like scrap it. It's okay. It doesn't mean that you're not gonna have success. You need to have success your way. The perfect combination that works for you.

It takes a little bit. It takes a lot of learning and self-reflection, but you're worth it. You are very important. Your business is incredibly important. I mean, you're out there healing the world, changing the world, making it a better place. It's worth the time to pause, do that reflection and find what really, really works for you. Then it's gonna feel authentic. This is your business. After all, it's your life. Find what works for you. It has to be authentic to who you are as a human being.

If you are doing something that doesn't align with your values, you are gonna be feeling a lot of resistance to doing it at all. So of course, you're not gonna get results that way, because your heart and your mind is holding you back because it's outside of your values.

Lessons Learned: how do you take all of these little pieces? Which parts do align with your values?

My friends, I know you are gonna figure out exactly what does work for you. You're gonna figure out all those little tiny tweaks to do to your experiments. You will find your ideal solution of what works for your business. What works for your life, what works for you as a person. So spend the time do this. Make those adjustments. Do what is right for you. You will have your results. I promise you. The timing is different for every person, but as long as you believe in yourself, you want this for yourself, you honor yourself by finding what works for you. Your unique combination, you are going to get this exactly right.

If you need any extra assistance at designing your experiments, at doing your lessons learned...note: it does slow you down in the process. But again, it's the gold, right? This is important stuff. I'm here to help you. So just go on over to my website www. myfreedomgrove.com head over to the contact. You can schedule some time for us to talk. All right, my friends, have a great week. Learn lots of stuff, honor yourself. And I will talk with you soon. Bye-bye.

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